A former prostitute who has slept more than 10,000 men has answered the golden questions that many women ask — including “what do men really want from sex?”
Gwyneth Montenegro, 39, from Australia, spent 12 years in the industry and has written a book revealing the surprising things that men will pay for.
In her book, on “being financially successful in the sex industry”, she said “most gentlemen don’t always go for the kinky services”.
In fact, in the decade Montenegro was in the industry, the most important thing to her clients was “feeling of being needed and wanted”.
“Wanted badly by a horny woman. It is their ultimate fantasy after all,” she said.
Montenegro said it was vital, therefore that whatever sex acts you are doing “you make [it] look like you want him bad and are enjoying him so much (even if you aren’t).”
Many girls in the industry tried to “outdo” other women with the acts or techniques they used, but this was to be avoided, according to the kinky author.
“Don’t try and keep up with, or outdo anyone else, or this can backfire. You only want to work within your boundaries,” Montenegro said.
“They are regular everyday men who just want some fun, and they want to know that you are having fun too.”
One of the biggest questions that she found girls asking was whether or not getting bigger boobs would be beneficial.
Thankfully the former prostitute revealed most men preferred the feel of real boobs and there was a market for every body type.
“If you’ve got them, there’s a market. If you don’t, there’s a market too. I wouldn’t lose too much sleep over it,” Montenegro said.
“A little-known secret in the punting world, is that there are quite a lot of men who will actively seek out escorts who are not the hottest of the hot women and go for someone who isn’t as classically beautiful, because they feel shy and sometimes a little inadequate themselves.
“You don’t have to be the hottest femme fatale, but as long as you are well groomed, comfortable and confident in your own skin, have a great vibe, energetic and you are professional … then this is what it takes.
“There are many, many different women of all shapes, ages, sizes and backgrounds than you can think of making money from their body.”
Montenegro said that one of the biggest myths was that men only want younger women.
In her experience, women can be successful at any age, and she has witnessed escorts in their 30s, 40s, 50s and 60s earning good sums of money.
She even heard of one escort who started working at the age of 83, and carried on for four years charging $330 an hour.
In fact, many men want a genuine conversation and connection — something they might not get with girls the same age as their daughters.
“Talking to one of my amazing male friends, who is in his early 50s, he said ‘Well that makes sense. Can you see me wanting to book a 22-year-old? If I wanted to have some conversation and connection and to feel like I was getting the attention I wanted, do you think a 22-year-old would necessarily give me that kind of service?’” Montenegro said.
And getting men excited about bedroom action often had little to do with skimpy outfits out in public.
When it comes to the clothes you wear, she said: “You don’t have to have ‘it all hanging out’ to make money in this business.”
Men like a bit of mystery and would rather pay for something that other men don’t always get to see, according to Montenegro.
“You don’t have to slut yourself out in how you dress, to get the attention of the men,” she said.
Montenegro revealed she had written the guide to empower women thinking of entering the industry and to teach them how to survive.
“In my line of work I am approached by practising escorts almost weekly and the trend is alarming,” she said. “More and more reveal that they are disheartened, bitter, broken and financially struggling. They are desperate.
“How could I sit back and stay quiet, when I know how it’s done? With my much talked about 10,091 encounters behind me, I don’t need the knowledge any more, so I passed it on.”